Is it possible to be friends with someone of the opposite sex?

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Society has evolved in such a way that even behaviour on how we see friendships have changed. Before the last decade, teens tended to have friends of the same sex and a romantic relationship with a person of the opposite sex. Teens today are more comfortable with being friends with the opposite sex as well as of the same sex. However with the media constantly showing male/female friendships evolving into romantic relationships, many people are convinced that a long-term truly platonic friendship between individuals of the opposite sex just isn’t possible.

Personally, I think that we can be friends with the opposite sex because true friendship is not only attained by being friends with the same sex. We have to understand that society is growing, maturing and learning how to be more tolerant and accepting others such as gays and lesbians and bisexuals. It is also starting to understand that people’s sex should not have to come between the formations of a friendship. Some people may be stereotypically right when they say that when you are friends with the opposite sex it usually means that they are homosexuals and in some cases this is true. And that when we are friends with the opposite sex it ultimately leaves no other explanation other than the fact that either one is physically attracted to the other.

Speaking from experience, one of my closest friends is of the opposite sex and yes he does happen to be a homosexual but our friendship does not suffer from this in any way what’s so ever. However some may argue that the reason why some people find themselves in a strictly friendship relationship with people of the opposite sex is because we do not allow ourselves to feel physically attracted or romantically attached to him/her due to the fact that we respect their sexuality preference and in the mean time we are saving ourselves from major heartbreaks. Taking this from a slightly different angle, we could argue the case of people who are friends with the opposite sex who 1. are completely straight 2. May be in a relationship with someone else 3. That we consider as our best friends. So what do we say to that? Well it is very simple, this proves that we can be friends with the opposite sex so long as we are able to determine how we feel about one another, are we attracted to them? If not, then we should define the relationship as strictly friends and nothing more. It is also important to remember that we should try and minimize sexual tension by not allowing ourselves to be “touchy feely” though we may be the affectionate type of person, others could interpret it differently which will just end up giving out mixed signals.

People who come from a different background such as Muslims, would not be in favour of being friends with the opposite sex because the Qur’an does not support this idea. It teaches that it is wrong simply because forming a relation ship with a person of the opposite sex is strictly for courting matters. From a religious point of view, being friends with the opposite sex can only lead to sinful things, such as becoming “friends with benefits”.

So is it possible to be friends with someone of the opposite sex? Yes, I very much think so depending on your background, and your outlook on life.

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